There's still that part of me though, however small it may be, that misses having someone in my life that makes me feel like I count.
Sure my kids make me feel like I matter, and I love them with every fiber of my being. I feel like I'm at an impass.. I'm having a hard time weighing out the pros and cons to being in a relationship vs. being single.
I guess if I could find the right guy it wouldn't be hard, right? There wouldn't even be a question or doubt in my mind. But..I'm kind of picky when it comes to the type of guy I want to be in a relationship with.
Several months ago I made a list of qualities/values I look for in a guy. It's quite long and involved. Obviously most of these are what I would look for in a husband. Some are not as important as others, and they aren't necessarily in any certain order.
What I Want In A Man…
1. Has to be a good person
2. Believes in God
3. Believes in himself
4. Ambitious
5. Makes me laugh constantly!
6. Optimistic when I need him to be.
7. Is open minded
8. Laid back
9. Can handle my incessant hounding should the occasion arise.
10. Likes to travel
11. Will go to concerts and shows with me.
12. Can appreciate my obscure taste in music.
13. Has good morals that agree with mine..especially about important stuff, such as infidelity, abortion, good 10 commandment type stuff.
14. Stands up for his principles and moral beliefs.
15. Has a witty, sarcastic, awesome sense of humor, can appreciate my sense of humor and I can appreciate his.
16. Has to get along with/love my family, especially Jackson.
17. My family must approve of and like/love him.
18. Is intelligent. Doesn’t have to be super intelligent, or booksmart, not a know-it-all..but is aware of things and can hold their own in a intellectual convo.
19. WILL NOT CHEAT!!
20. Has a place in his heart for the less fortunate, but not to a fault.
21. Must respect and value me, my time, thoughts, dreams, feelings, opinions.
22. Is clean!
23. Good hygiene!
24. Is generous..with more than just money.
25. Is secure with himself and his life.
26. Adores me..everything about me..to a fault ;)
27. Is thoughtful.
28. Taller than me..
29. Makes me feel protected and safe.
30. Will lay on the couch and be lazy with me if I need him to.
31. Will leave me alone if I need him to.
32. Isn’t rude.
33. Will give me a hug and tell me everything is going to be okay if I’m sad.
34. Will bail me out if I fail, but not hold it over my head…
35. Smells good.
36. Likes to play with my hair
37. Is a good kisser
38. Loves to hold my hand.
39. Will dance with me.
40. Will do anything to see me and spend time with me.
41. Calls and texts..but not to annoyance.
42. Initiates romance sometimes, but isn’t waaay to mushy.
43. I find him attractive.
44. Can dress appropriately for different occasions.
45. Wants the same things in life I do.
46. Pays his bills on time.
47. ^^Takes care of his bidness.
48. Doesn’t have crazy exes/mother
49. Is a good father or father figure.
50. Can handle my craziness.
51. Motivated
52. Tactful
53. Can read and write (obviously)
54. Loves to sing, even if he can’t…and will sing to me. ..and will listen to me sing..and like it.
55. Is patient, even when I’m not.
56. Values his family, and time with his family.
57. Good teeth.
58. Appreciates clean sheets.
59. Can cook…will cook for me.
60. Loves his momma.
61. Will give me the wedding of my dreams should we both decide we want to marry.
62. Will take me out at least once a week just to show me off.
63. Knows how to communicate with me.
64. Is consistent.
65. Challenges and motivates me to be a better person.
66. Is honest.
67. Will share his secrets with me.
68. Wants to be my best friend…but not the gross girly kind of friend.
69. Kills the spiders for me.
70. Does laundry..or at least helps.
71. Lets me know when he’ll be late.
72. Doesn’t stand me up.
73. Is punctual.
74. Helps curb my anxiety instead of feed into it.
75. Can handle a crowd.
76. Loves people and loves to socialize.
77. But will stay in if I wanna..
78. We have a bond..
79. Is interested in my happiness, and our future together.
80. Thinks I’m a great mom.
81. will take my side if anyone wrongs me..
82. but will call me out (in a nice way) if I’m wrong.
83. Will want stay up late to talk or watch movies with me.
84. Will admit if he is wrong.
85. Is straight-forward and doesn’t play games, won’t mess with my head.
86. Can handle the fact that I am friends with men.
87. Is jealous, but not overly-jealous…
88. Loves me even on my bad-hair, no make-up, sweats and tshirt days.
89. Has his own car.
90. Has his own house.
91. Will deal with it if I’m a little late.
92. Can take a compliment well.
93. Will compliment me (a lot).
94. Will make a fool of himself to prove he wants to be with me, will get in my face and force me to see it.
95. He only has eyes for me.
96. He’s persistent.
97. Will love me even when it hurts.
98. Keeps his promises
99. Will listen..really listen.
100. Will tell me the truth, even if it hurts my feelings, won’t brush issues under the rug just to make me happy.
101. Is in touch with reality.
102. Wants me til death do us part.
If you made it through all 102 points, good for you! Lol..if any of you know a guy that would meet most of these requirements feel free to send him my way for inspection. I'm thinking I'll formulate an inspection like the DMV does on your car. Anyone have any ideas for that?
1. Has to be a good person
2. Believes in God
3. Believes in himself
4. Ambitious
5. Makes me laugh constantly!
6. Optimistic when I need him to be.
7. Is open minded
8. Laid back
9. Can handle my incessant hounding should the occasion arise.
10. Likes to travel
11. Will go to concerts and shows with me.
12. Can appreciate my obscure taste in music.
13. Has good morals that agree with mine..especially about important stuff, such as infidelity, abortion, good 10 commandment type stuff.
14. Stands up for his principles and moral beliefs.
15. Has a witty, sarcastic, awesome sense of humor, can appreciate my sense of humor and I can appreciate his.
16. Has to get along with/love my family, especially Jackson.
17. My family must approve of and like/love him.
18. Is intelligent. Doesn’t have to be super intelligent, or booksmart, not a know-it-all..but is aware of things and can hold their own in a intellectual convo.
19. WILL NOT CHEAT!!
20. Has a place in his heart for the less fortunate, but not to a fault.
21. Must respect and value me, my time, thoughts, dreams, feelings, opinions.
22. Is clean!
23. Good hygiene!
24. Is generous..with more than just money.
25. Is secure with himself and his life.
26. Adores me..everything about me..to a fault ;)
27. Is thoughtful.
28. Taller than me..
29. Makes me feel protected and safe.
30. Will lay on the couch and be lazy with me if I need him to.
31. Will leave me alone if I need him to.
32. Isn’t rude.
33. Will give me a hug and tell me everything is going to be okay if I’m sad.
34. Will bail me out if I fail, but not hold it over my head…
35. Smells good.
36. Likes to play with my hair
37. Is a good kisser
38. Loves to hold my hand.
39. Will dance with me.
40. Will do anything to see me and spend time with me.
41. Calls and texts..but not to annoyance.
42. Initiates romance sometimes, but isn’t waaay to mushy.
43. I find him attractive.
44. Can dress appropriately for different occasions.
45. Wants the same things in life I do.
46. Pays his bills on time.
47. ^^Takes care of his bidness.
48. Doesn’t have crazy exes/mother
49. Is a good father or father figure.
50. Can handle my craziness.
51. Motivated
52. Tactful
53. Can read and write (obviously)
54. Loves to sing, even if he can’t…and will sing to me. ..and will listen to me sing..and like it.
55. Is patient, even when I’m not.
56. Values his family, and time with his family.
57. Good teeth.
58. Appreciates clean sheets.
59. Can cook…will cook for me.
60. Loves his momma.
61. Will give me the wedding of my dreams should we both decide we want to marry.
62. Will take me out at least once a week just to show me off.
63. Knows how to communicate with me.
64. Is consistent.
65. Challenges and motivates me to be a better person.
66. Is honest.
67. Will share his secrets with me.
68. Wants to be my best friend…but not the gross girly kind of friend.
69. Kills the spiders for me.
70. Does laundry..or at least helps.
71. Lets me know when he’ll be late.
72. Doesn’t stand me up.
73. Is punctual.
74. Helps curb my anxiety instead of feed into it.
75. Can handle a crowd.
76. Loves people and loves to socialize.
77. But will stay in if I wanna..
78. We have a bond..
79. Is interested in my happiness, and our future together.
80. Thinks I’m a great mom.
81. will take my side if anyone wrongs me..
82. but will call me out (in a nice way) if I’m wrong.
83. Will want stay up late to talk or watch movies with me.
84. Will admit if he is wrong.
85. Is straight-forward and doesn’t play games, won’t mess with my head.
86. Can handle the fact that I am friends with men.
87. Is jealous, but not overly-jealous…
88. Loves me even on my bad-hair, no make-up, sweats and tshirt days.
89. Has his own car.
90. Has his own house.
91. Will deal with it if I’m a little late.
92. Can take a compliment well.
93. Will compliment me (a lot).
94. Will make a fool of himself to prove he wants to be with me, will get in my face and force me to see it.
95. He only has eyes for me.
96. He’s persistent.
97. Will love me even when it hurts.
98. Keeps his promises
99. Will listen..really listen.
100. Will tell me the truth, even if it hurts my feelings, won’t brush issues under the rug just to make me happy.
101. Is in touch with reality.
102. Wants me til death do us part.
If you made it through all 102 points, good for you! Lol..if any of you know a guy that would meet most of these requirements feel free to send him my way for inspection. I'm thinking I'll formulate an inspection like the DMV does on your car. Anyone have any ideas for that?
I have tons of ideas for this inspection! I think you also need an inspection sticker should he pass, but since that wont stay too well, perhaps an inspection tattoo.
ReplyDeleteThat's a great idea! Hmm...a branding iron may be more interesting and fun.
ReplyDeleteThat's is a long friggin' dang list, E. Lol, that took some time and serious thought. I love it.
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